COUPLERESOLUTIONATION

While growing up as a youth on fire, my dad used to tell me that life is full of opportunities; that people without clear vision and plans end up miserable in life. He would even go on to tell me that by not planning one was indeed planning too. I would be confused and knowing him to be a firm dad I will keep to my doubt. Come New Year’s Eve, he will convene all the family, my mum and my other siblings on lecturing and encouraging us in his patronising manner to write down and in his diary all what we wanted to achieve come the New Year. I didn’t like it but now years after I am married I know better.

Another coinage?
Bored with my coinage terms, I here you say that, pose a minute and figure me out. I am married and in a life long journey and any decision I make will include my partner and kids. At times I longed the times I used to be at varsity, where any thought will easily and quickly materialise to a decision with minimal or no consequences at all. Nowadays we must have discussion session – we need to talk moments, a time to discuss everything from what is to be bought to how to buy and when to purchase the said stuff. Buying is not just buying; it has to be approved by the finance manager (read the wife) to the financier – the husband. Yes, Couplelistenation, remember? As a couple, come New Year’s Eve or way in the month a clear agreement of the way forward has to be laid down. Checks and balances for the year, what is to be carried forward and what is to be bad debts will be discarded.

Explained
Coupleresolutionation, is how and when a couple sits down and discuss a way forward for their plans, structures and vision for the future. Married persons need to discuss stuffs as a team, decide and agree upon any project to invest or discard in future. This is one of the vital pillars of a couple that will help them grow and develop with stability to withstand all demands of their life; be it financial or social upbringing of their kids and people around them.

Husbands as head of the house needs to chair this meeting and in a very democratic way listening to their partner the wife and their kid’s needs and opinions too. Through this the husband may know how firm or lighter to enforce a particular decision accordingly.

Inspiring moments
I remember when George our family friend eldest daughter Gene completed her high school and was awaiting her results her future career became a talk while we were having dinner together. Gene wanted to go abroad and join an abroad varsity but the mother did not like the idea as she preferred all her kids in the same area near her. She never aired that thought but she went on saying that we had better and high standard varsity locally that surpasses all what gene was referring to. George is one quiet guy; he never injected or interrupted the argument only saying that they should wait for her results outcome. While Gene her daughter was talking and her mother objecting, I thought I could see reason in George’s wife idea of not taking ones kid abroad while there were local universities that were better. I to I failed to see reason then. Later after our guests left, we discussed us a couple with my partner casually and that when I got the light bulb moment.

Education is not just for academic knowledge but much more for life experiences through exposure, ‘broadening ones tent’ and vision, being able to see the world in a whole new dimension. Yes attending a varsity abroad in a different environment than one is raised in will bring a newer more mature person in kid than one who is schooled in a local campus. One interacts with many different people from different ethnic groups and backgrounds. Ones norms are shaped and changed as phobia and rigidity of principles is challenged. At the end of the varsity time a person has been trained well to understand and respect all people of every walk.

Yes, when a couple sits down and discuss issues as well as some solid stuff a family grows. More is when their discuss way forward come the New Year in their lives. Investments are realised as well as new projects will be initiated that will benefiting and mature the couple with their families. Ego and ‘why should I tell you while you never approve’ attitude should melt down as a couple is two for survival. One cannot flourish without the other.

Yes, discussing the way forward in a couple’s journey is the way to go hence realising a happier and more stable family. Plans and vision is clearly set and time, funds as well as energies are easily channel to the more requiring matters. I champion and encourage you couples to discuss everything to anything regarding the family matters. Couples lets coupleresolutionate!